Dost thou love life?
Then do not squander time,
For that is the stuff life is made of.
Benjamin Franklin

Today despite the violent bouts of coughing fits, I decided to brave the gloomy weather outside to quickly grab lunch with a dear acquaintance of mine.
Sitting across the table from me, she was looking a little worse for wear, haggard, unkempt hair casually tied into 2 low pigtails. I later learnt that she has not been eating nor sleeping well because the diagnosis for her dad’s condition did not go as well as expected. The cancerous tumours that formed around his liver, which were successfully removed a couple of years ago, have returned with a vengeance. Since he is not eligible for a transplant, according to the doctors, he has months, and if he’s really lucky, a handful of years left.
He has always been a vegetarian, doesn’t drink, smoke or do drugs. But yet, here he is, going head to head with the big C.
Life is unfair in so many ways, isn’t it?
My friend has always prepared herself for the eventual day but she did not expect it to come so soon.
My little lunch hour had got me contemplating for the rest of the day. Of how fleeting life is, of the many things I’ve always wanted to do; Of the many miles that I want to tread; Of the adventures that I long to have; Of all the plays I wanted to see; Of all the beautiful French words I want to learn but keep deliberately putting off; Of all the books I’ve promised to devour but not quick enough; Of all the articles I’ve wanted to pen, but could never find the right words; Of all the conversations I wanted to have but the phone always seems too far away; Of all the pennies I have diligently pinched and saved but never spent; Of all the baubles of treasures I have crafted but never sold; Of all the missed opportunities that I have never and will never be able to recapture; Of not saying ‘I love you’ enough to the people who matter…
As I went on typing the rest of this entry, I got furious about how I have closely befriended procrastination and how, hand in hand we have conjured up some lengthy and exasperated excuses to not do/put off something.
As you get older, you get so caught up with the trappings of life that you forget to live life.
After all, there is always the next time, right?
“Maybe next weekend when the weather’s better”;
“Maybe next year when I get that fat pay rise”;
“This Saturday morning, really? Maybe I’ll enrol for the next term…”;
“My toe hurts, maybe it’s not a good night for yoga”;
“Maybe in another year, I might finally finish reading all of Dickens’ work,”;
“Oh, the jewellery line? Yeah, it’s coming alright…”;
“It’s too cold out, I’ll take a walk tomorrow, maybe it’ll be more pleasant,”;
And then I became even more agitated when I thought about other people’s umms and aahhs over recent times:
“Maybe when work dies down a little”;
“I’m way too big now, maybe when I lose 10 pounds”;
“We’ll take that trip when we eventually pay off the damn house”;
“Maybe when my kid finally turns 7, he’s 10 months, so not long now…”;
“Maybe when the airfares eventually go on sale, then I will come visit you…”;
“Maybe next year when he can take some time off, then I’ll finally get to go to…”;
“If only I was born rich, then I might consider…”;
“Honey, maybe the year after next. Paris isn’t going anywhere, you know?”;
“Oh, I’m 55, that’s way too old to travel!”;
“Maybe I might strike it rich in the next recession…”;
“My marriage is so miserable, maybe it’s something I did, it’s probably just a rough phase…”;
Yes, there might be countless maybe’s and If only’s, but really, only one lifetime. The most heart wrenching thing is to realise that there’s never enough time in this lifetime for all the I-love-you’s, exotic locales, love, confronting experiences, bubble baths, sunsets, pictures, autumns, fresh daisies, words, happiness, whimsical dreams…
The manic marketing team behind Nike might have had it right all along, after all:
Life is fucking short; Just do it!